From: cinema_babe	Date: November 24th, 2016 03:38 am (UTC)		(Link)

This is one of the most tenderly written Thanksgiving messages I've read in a very long time. Thank you so very much for publishing this.


I also know that when I was going though bad times, if most anyone had told me then "you will be glad this happened", I would have reacted with nothing but hatred and rage

This had so much resonance with me. When I was about 26 I was coming out off of a heartbreak so painful I ended up in therapy. One day I was fretting about my fear that no one would ever love me again (did I mention I was only 26?). My therapist said to me, "well nothing is guaranteed, what happens if you never have another romantic relationship in your life again. Think about it and we'll discuss it next week". For about a month I was full of that rage and hatred over the idea that something like that could happen to me.

In the end, though, it was one of the most grounding thought exercises I ever went through. It took almost all of the drama out of my love life because I realized that it was ok and I would be ok if I didn't have a partner. Relationships became an enhancement to my life, not a goal.

Sorry about the ramble, what you wrote touched me very deeply. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.