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Mark Atwood
link requests from strangers
I just got a cellphone call from "Blocked Caller ID". I don't answer such calls. I wish I could program the phone to not ring, and/or the GSM network to not even try to connect, when the CID is not available. Go right into voicemail.

Similarly, I get regularly get link requests on various social-network-featured sites from people who I can't figure out who they are, because they're too cutesy about their online handles and "fluid identity". I likewise tend to ignore such link requests. (This doesn't count spammer fake identities, like the ones who infest MySpace. Those are easy to recognize and dismiss.)

If someone wants me to recognize / approve / backlink / also friend / whatever the link requests sent to me, don't use an impenetrable or annoying fluid identity. Put your name and your face behind you words.

I use the "fallenpegasus" handle nearly everywhere online, mainly because it's almost unique. But, whenever possible, I also put my actual real name, my photo, and links back to my main online presences, just to avoid causing that annoyance in other people.

If you use "spam" as an excuse, that's a lame excuse. If you are Joe User, the big web mail services have excellent spam filtering. If you are running your own mail server, turn on all the strict antispam tools in your MTA, and enable greylist and blacklist filtering.

If "stalking" is your fear, well, while that is a valid problem, especially for attractive women and for people who have some measure of celebrity, I'm not saying to publish your physical address.

And on a similar note, even if you have a good linkage between your online existence and your realspace one, I still need to know who you are in relation to me, and why I care. Unless you are confident that I know your name on sight (and I have to meet you about 4 times before that starts to happen), some "how do I know you" is necessary.

It can be as simple as "we met at last night's geek event, and spent a couple of minutes talking about frobnitz" or "I saw your profile on othersite", but I need something, or otherwise you are likely going to get, best case, an email saying "and just who are you again?".

A couple of months ago, Tim O'Reilly posted a plea about the same thing. I get a handful of "who is this?" link requests a month. He gets dozens per day.

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From: technoshaman Date: January 16th, 2008 12:01 am (UTC) (Link)
I think it's OK to keep an online persona online... but I agree with you in general that requests out of the blue with no context get not just round-filed, but often there are enough keywords that running them through Bogofilter is warranted...

The consistent use of a created persona is a concept that dates to the founding of our country, at least.

*snort* that's funny. Created persona was pioneered by Franklin. Now, linkbacks are all about the benjamins.
jenevastorme From: jenevastorme Date: January 16th, 2008 01:00 am (UTC) (Link)
>>>Created persona was pioneered by Franklin.<<<

Was it really? I did not know that.
From: technoshaman Date: January 16th, 2008 02:59 am (UTC) (Link)
At least in this country it was. Most people either went totally by a pen name, or totally by their birthname... Franklin was a public figure (heck, a diplomat, among other things), so there were things he just couldn't say as Dr. Ben Franklin. But as Poor Richard, he could say what he felt like saying. (I poked around for quite a while and couldn't find anybody else who did the split character thing before he did...)
mauser From: mauser Date: January 16th, 2008 04:45 am (UTC) (Link)
That's why I'm Mauser anywhere I can get it, and Mauser712 anywhere I can't.
mauser From: mauser Date: January 16th, 2008 08:59 am (UTC) (Link)
So, I take this to mean that you haven't hacked your phone.... I figured that you would have by now. :-)
deepdvd From: deepdvd Date: January 17th, 2008 03:03 am (UTC) (Link)

unwanted calls straight to voicemail

I have a few more invitations to the beta grandcentral.com if you want one.

Google recently acquired them and they are in beta right now. Check it out. It gives you to have a front-end number that forwards to any number of existing numbers with a ton of options.
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