Log in

No account? Create an account
entries friends calendar profile My Website Previous Previous Next Next
Mark Atwood
Randoms. Seattle Grey, a May/Sept Dyke Couple, LRS retreat, and Neanderthal Man
I think The Lid has come down, and Seattle's beautiful summer (the secret we try to hide from the rest of the world) has about come to an end. Today is cool and grey and dim, with the promise of more coolness, more greyness, and more dimmness to follow.

Several weeks ago I saw an odd couple. A very dyky dyke in her late 50s, and her very dyky babydyke girlfriend. Said young girlfriend was old enough to drive, probably not old enough to drink, and it was a coin-toss if she was old enough to vote. And yes, they were a couple, the way they were touching was not family or "just friends". Why is it that a Ff couple is able to get away with it, but a Mf or Mm would be gathering "ewww"s from all around, and an Fm would be raising eyebrows?

I attended the Little Red Studio start of season retreat this past weekend. It was social, it was fun, I ate entirely too much roasted meat, I met some really cool people. Art and theater geeks, instead of computer and net geeks, tho most of them had never heard of the modern construction of the term "geek". We did some exercises which were rather basic for theater types, and were utterly terrifying for me. We did a group skit brainstorming and then performance. And then we did guest-meet-greet-handle-handoff practice.

A few days ago, I saw a man who's face looked JUST LIKE an artists recontructions of a Neanderthal face from it's skull. He had a very heavy brow, a very low sloping forhead, very heavy eye bone ridges, and a huge heavy jaw that jutted far forward of his face, a small flat nose, and deeply set small round eyes, all on a very thick neck, over a very large but not fat body. And his face and head were pink and hairless.

I thought for a moment it was a pullover mask or something, but the flesh of his face was alive and expressive.

I'm sure he gets tired of being told he looks like a picture of a Neanderthal, but still, it was a very interesting and odd thing to see.

Current Location: Home, Capitol Hill, Seattle WA

6 comments or Leave a comment
jatg From: jatg Date: September 17th, 2007 08:20 pm (UTC) (Link)
What makes you think they get away with it? I've known a few of those types of couples too and my always reaction is "ewww."

ursuscelticus From: ursuscelticus Date: September 17th, 2007 09:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thank you! I was thinking the same exact thing. Maybe it's just me, but I would not want to date someone who was old enough to be my parent or young enough to be my kid. Just... ew!
jatg From: jatg Date: September 17th, 2007 09:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
Indeed. Most of the time I figure the younger one is going through Mommy/Daddy issues and the older one is just a perv who needs to date their own decade.
Either way, barf.

(Why yes, I AM an ageist.)
perldiver From: perldiver Date: September 17th, 2007 10:05 pm (UTC) (Link)
Why is it that a Ff couple is able to get away with it, but a Mf or Mm would be gathering "ewww"s from all around, and an Fm would be raising eyebrows?

Note sure if by "get away with it" you mean dating someone of a radically different age or being touchy-feely in public. On the age thing, I'm with the other commenters--I don't think they can, I think they get just as many raised eyebrows as any other combination.

On the touchy-feely thing, my best guess is that it's a patriarchy thing. When men are involved in touchy-feeliness, there is (or can be seen to be) an element of territory-staking and competition with surrounding males. When it's two women, that element is removed and so "that's ok." Under this model, women would have no problems observing a f/f couple being gropy either because they have fewer innate competitive instincts, or because have been acclimated to our culture which says this is ok.

This isn't my theory, it's something I bumped into at one point when asking this very question. I'm not entirely satisfied with it, but it's the only explanation I've ever heard that made any sense to me whatsoever.
mauser From: mauser Date: September 18th, 2007 01:24 am (UTC) (Link)
Nah, that's pretty much it. It's okay because there's no Dick in the equation.
prairie_kittin From: prairie_kittin Date: September 18th, 2007 02:20 am (UTC) (Link)
When I was 16, I found myself in the unenviable position of being pregnant with no baby-daddy willing to step up to the plate and an old school father who wasn't afraid to use the proverbial shotgun. "Divorce in the family is okay. Illegitimate grandchildren are Not Okay!" So, I had to find a husband and quick! I ended up with a Neanderthal who looked exactly as you described. I swear, he could have been the model for the artist's renditions of that famous prehistoric creature. If he hadn't died 7 years ago, I would have sworn you had just seen him!
6 comments or Leave a comment