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Is Seth Godwin a the best marketing expert ever, or a life-coach/therapist? Is there really a diffe - Mark Atwood
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Is Seth Godwin a the best marketing expert ever, or a life-coach/therapist? Is there really a diffe
http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2009/01/the-goals-you-never-hear-about.html


"I don't want to fail," "I don't want to look stupid," or "I don't want to make any mistakes."
The problem is that those goals are really common, and left unsaid, they dominate.
Think about how often your goal ... is, "don't screw up!" or "don't make a fool of yourself and say the wrong thing."


The times I'm been the most happy is when I'm not concerned about making mistakes or screwing up.

The times I've been the most unhappy are either when I am afraid of screwing up.

Or when I'm recovering from the aftermath or loss from a mistake that I didn't understand or wasn't expecting.

That last sentence is the killer, and why mistake-fear is so hard to just ignore...
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lishablog From: lishablog Date: January 27th, 2009 10:10 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oooooh yeah! I know without a shadow of a doubt that nearly all of my actions in the last two years have been based on fall out from the ouch of a huge mistake that I made nearly three years ago. Well... mistake? I can frame it in several ways, actually, but the results of my actions and choices hurt lots, even if they did lead to some good stuff a little while down the line. I can't just make the mistake-fear go away because I know about the good things that came along eventually, though. The big, bad ouches were too big and too bad to just let go that easily!
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